Anyone who’s just come out of a long-term relationship will know it takes time before you can jump into another one. If you aren’t sure whether you’re ready for singles events in London yet, read on to find out if it’s time to reignite your love life.
You feel strong enough to be let down
The first person you date isn’t likely to love you the way your ex-partner did, if at all, so you have to be strong enough to face the reality that you’ll have to go on several dates before you find someone you even click with. And that might mean being let down by a few people in the meantime. If you know your self worth and are feeling strong and confident, you’re ready to deal with this.
You’re looking for someone different
There’s no point in wanting to date someone who was the same as your ex, as clearly there was something not 100 per cent right with the relationship for it to end. It can be hard breaking the mould but you could get to know lots more characters that you find attractive by doing so.
You can’t rush into things
You may have been on the way to marriage and kids in your last relationship, but if you mention serious commitment early on when dating you’re likely to scare the other person off. Remember to take things slowly and see where they go. You don’t need to rush into things – and if you do, you might lose someone who could’ve been quite special if you’d just given the relationship some time. You also need to give yourself some time and learn what it’s like to be in your own company. Once you are happy with yourself and don’t need a person to make you happy, you’re probably in the right frame of mind to start looking for someone who wants to.