First Date Etiquette

First Dates are always nerve wracking and some people love them or hate them, a bit like marmite. We are always being asked to give date advice and top tips so we thought it about time we tackled the issue of first date etiquette. Here are some essential skills to mastering the art of first dates...


There are some really simple steps you can follow to turn a good first date into a great one.

  1. Speak to each other at least 24 hours before you are meeting so you are comfortable hearing each other’s voice. Confirm where you are meeting and at what time.
  2. Preparation is key, so ensure you have plenty of time to get ready and ideally don’t go straight from work. This allows you to relax and feel good.
  3. Wear clothes that you are comfortable in and make you feel confident.
  4. Smell nice. A little bit of perfume or aftershave is a must.
  5. Brush teeth. Oral hygiene is key.

First Date Etiquette

  1. Smile, everyone likes a smile and a smile says so much more than words.
  2. Don’t eat food, just have a drink, keep it simple, go for a walk, and somewhere you can talk to get to know each other better.
  3. Don’t get drunk on the date or drink before the date.
  4. Be your natural self and don’t pretend to be someone you are not or make out that you are someone else. Relax and be you.
  5. Keep your mobile phone switched off.
  6. Don’t talk about ex-partners or any past relationship disasters or even great past relationships. You are there to know about each other and get to know the date you are on.
  7. Talk about holidays, your hobbies, interests, food, funny things you have done, keep it light and fun.
  8. Avoid talking too much about work or questioning your date about work,  you don’t want it turning into an interview or business meeting.
  9. Ask questions of each other, nothing too deep and meaningful unless you are both in that space, but be curious and ask questions of your dates life, interests and fun things that they like and things that they really don’t like.  Find similarities and share stories with each other so you are comfortable with each other.
  10. Be polite and courteous to each other, Guys remember chivalry it goes a long way.
  11. Girls say thank you if the guy buys you drinks.
  12. If you go in for the kiss on a date, don’t wait until the end of the date, if there is a moment that seems appropriate then just test the water with a light fun flirty kiss and take it from there.

What next

  1. If you like the person you are on a date with say so! Tell them you have had a nice time and want to see them again.
  2. If it hasn’t gone well, be polite and say that you feel it wouldn’t be right to see them again. It’s best to be friends.

Well, we hope you have some good tips to make you feel more comfortable, but essentially be yourself and have fun! For more information on joining Elect Club or attending our events across London and the UK just use our contact form or call 0800 644 4120.